CAPPMoms

We are Catholic moms who follow the basic tenets of Attachment Parenting. We are different personalities; we're not clones, so you should see some varying opinions on different subjects. Join us as we continue on this exciting ride known as Catholic Mothering!

Tuesday, August 30, 2005

Praying for New Orleans and the Gulf coast...

This is heartbreaking to watch, and I fear the worst is yet to come. God bless those folks.

I have found New Orleans info here.

Thursday, August 25, 2005

Prenups--Grounds for annulment?

OK, bear with me. This is something that I wondered about, years ago, when I worked as a law clerk to a matrimonial judge. Prenups (prenuptial agreements about property, inheritance, etc) were not a huge issue with most of the people in our court (where we live, it is a lot of cops/firemen married to nurses), but of course I had to study up on them.

Today in our local paper there was an article about them and it got me wondering again. From a purely legal standpoint, a prenup makes sense if each party brings substantial assets to the marriage, along with children from an earlier marriage, perhaps a family business or a prospective inheritance. If you look at marrriage as a business partnership--which the law to a great extent does--it would seem foolish NOT to have one.

But if you view marriage as a sacrament, might the existence of a prenup constitute some evidence that one or both parties was not fully committing themselves to a lifetime relationship? Is it a sort of holding back? a way of saying, I love you, and I want to be married to you, but I can envision circumstances where I may no longer feel that way, so I want to protect myself financially?

I have no idea what if anything Catholic counselors advise. The topic did not come up in our one-day Engaged Encounter, nor in our conversation with my parish priest.

It just struck me. Does anyone at all have any insights on this?

Wednesday, August 24, 2005

Whatcha Reading?!

I'm making a quick-o trip to our local library as soon as it opens this morning, as I discovered on their webpage last night that a book I'd reserved has come in, and they are going to send it back today if I don't come get it. So, I'm going to drag the kids over to the library (can you imagine that I have offspring that don't love the library? what a genetic twist.... I digress).

So, I've got a few things on reserve..... The Color of Love looked interesting...

After years of living with a drunken and abusive husband, Cheek's mother separated from her husband in 1961 in Winston--Salem, North Carolina. She began a clandestine relationship with a black man, Cornelius Tucker, who was everything her husband was not. Ten-year-old Cheek was enlisted to keep the relationship secret, which they managed for the most part until his mother became pregnant and gave birth to a brown-skinned baby. In the face of rabid racial attitudes and Klan violence, Cheek's mother and Tucker remained steadfast. But his vengeful father and other family members testified against the mother in a custody case that carried the threat of prison for violating the state's anti-miscegenation law. From the perspective of a young boy, Cheek recalls the horrendous choices that were forced on his mother and his separation from a loving family. Cheek recalls the painful guilt his mother suffered and the seething hatred he felt for years. This is a powerful story of love and forgiveness in the context of racial hatred during a tumultuous time in the South.

I also have A Good Yarn by Debbie Macomber, a follow up to her first "yarn" book The Shop on Blossom Street. Slightly fluffy, but we need fluff in our lives.

I suggested a title to our local library system, so I was first on the reserve list for this book, The Friend Who Got Away, Twenty Women's True Life Tales of Friendships that Blew Up, Burned Out or Faded Away . I've had a couple of childhood friendships that blew up, a few college friendships that faded away....

That's all that is ready today.... I have a few more titles reserved that have not come in yet. When they are in, I'll post!

So, what are YOU reading?!

Sunday, August 21, 2005

Pray Hard...

Saw a story over on Happy Catholic that Julie D. shared about a family that needs serious prayers for their baby on the way. Please, click the link and storm heaven for this family.

Wednesday, August 17, 2005

Movie Repeat

If you missed the JPII movie the other night, they'll replay it Sunday AM. Check the Hallmark channel website for the details!

Sunday, August 14, 2005

Movie about John Paul II on Hallmark Channel, Monday, August 15

I saw an ad for a movie tomorrow night on the Hallmark Channel about JPII..... so I searched for the Hallmark Channel website, and found out some more info.....

This has the information about the movie.

It looks interesting, and they quote some positive responses from the Vatican. So, I think I'll throw a tape in the VCR (no, we don't have TIVo), and see what the buzz is all about. Some of the photos of the young actor playing the priest who became Pope really remind me of our late Holy Father!

Tuesday, August 09, 2005

What Are Ya Looking For?

I saw over on Two Sleepy Mommies that they did a post on the keywords that come up on their Stat Counting software, and it was pretty funny. So, I'm doing the same thing here!

Georg Ratzinger Well, I think you'll find him in Italy faster than you'll find him here (lol). But I'm sure they came here and found our post about The Pope and his cats, which mentions his brother.

Someone came the other day on a search for things related to Catholic Mothering. Well, they've hit the right spot!

How about assateague island state thong. Uh, I'm not sure what the last word entails, but I'll bet they hit Lady Hatton's post about going birding.

The last phrase that has come up is Dentyne Fire Offensive. Ugh. That was a post about a recent ad from Dentyne Gum that a lot of people found pretty rude. We direct you to One Million Dads for more info.

We've had other phrases come up in the keywords. Mostly it's funny, or innocuous. But, a couple of time we've found people searching for something very raunchy. By a weird juxtaposition of words that are also in one of our posts, they come to our site, which frankly, generates a great big "EWWWW" out of this blogger.

So, if you've come here looking for something rude or nasty, please: Go away! But if you are looking for bits and pieces on mothering and families and Catholicism and general oddities that float around the blogosphere, Welcome!

Welcome Home Space Shuttle Discovery!!!

As space buffs, my DH and I have been avidly following the saga with the Discovery this past week or so.

Night before last, the kidlets were tucked in, and the nighttime routine included fervent prayers for their safe return. K2 wandered in very sleepy yesterday morning, and first thing she asked was if the astronauts came home safely.

So, this morning, since the return was at a fairly reasonable hour here in the heartland, we were able to tune in to a live feed from NASA and watch the whole thing. Oh, my heart was pounding as they began their re-entry!

Thank God (and we did, several times) they landed just fine. What a testament to the great minds at NASA who have managed to go to Plan B, then Plan C, then on and on as they've dealt with unexpected challenges, and yet still brought home the shuttle intact.

I pray that they are able to resume flights, and continue the space program. I think the science gained is valuable and contributes immensely to our progress as a society.

As a mom from an era when I as a female student was encouraged to only go as far as geometry, while the boys were shuttled into Trig and Calculus, I appreciate so much the contributions of the women astronauts to this mission.

Welcome Home, Discovery! And God bless you all.

Tuesday, August 02, 2005

Back....

Well, the move is complete, and we are in the new house. It's really wonderful. It's bigger, but not too big. It's very pretty. We are enjoying the new space, but dadgumit, I still can't find the orange juice pitcher ;)

We also were quite busy with a Music project last week, culminating in a performance by the youth involved after the week's "camp". It was really fun, but required being up very early each morning and being gone a good chunk of the day.

So, this is really the first time I've experienced the mornings here in the new house. I'm seeing a bit of who leaves to go to work, whose cars stay in the drive. I'm seeing how the shadows of the morning sun fall in the front yard on the flower beds. I'm seeing how the kids' delight in going into the backyard is mixed with the "ewww" factor of wet dewy grass on their feet. All in all, this has been a wonderful move for our family, the stress of the move itself has eased a lot, and I can sense a greater family harmony than I could a year ago.

I keep repeating "new house, new habits", and slowly they are starting to happen. I'm the one in biggest need of new habits. I've managed to get all my shoes back to my closet every time, except for the time I left my sandals in the backyard by the trampoline, and the sprinkler system thoroughly soaked them overnight. Whoops. I'm managing to squeegee the shower walls each time, telling myself that a minute today will keep me from spending half an hour scrubbing calcium deposits from the glass. I've managed to plan out a week's menu, do the shopping, and (gasp) actually have dinner at home 3 nights in a row now!

The one worrisome thing about the new house is this: K1 and K2 are on the other side of the house from us, with a kitchen and laundry room in between. Both are typical sources of home fires. We have a security system that is monitored, so if the system goes off I have the comfort of knowing the fire department will be called. Still, I worry about what might happen if a fire breaks out, and it is between me and my kids. K3's room is over on the same side as the master bedroom, and not quite so far away (relatively speaking), which is good because of K3's age. Believe me, if K1 and K2 weren't the ages they were, I'd be most uncomfortable with this floor plan.

Yesterday, we stopped at a local firestation, and talked to the guys there about fire safety and picked up some good information brochures. We plan to sit down and complete a fire exit plan, and do a few fire drills with the kids. Scary stuff, but you have to do what you can, and then trust in the good Lord to keep you as safe as possible, you know?

So, today, we've decided to skip out on emptying boxes and go to our local zoo. Hoping to get there before it gets too hot, but I can assure you that if I wait for the kids to get dressed by themselves, it won't happen. So, I'll log off for now. Sorry for the hiatus, and I'm glad to be back ;)