CAPPMoms

We are Catholic moms who follow the basic tenets of Attachment Parenting. We are different personalities; we're not clones, so you should see some varying opinions on different subjects. Join us as we continue on this exciting ride known as Catholic Mothering!

Tuesday, February 28, 2006

A Blogging Break For Lent

I'm going to try something that may be very difficult (gulp) this Lent.

I'm going offline, except for Sundays.

This could be kinda challenging. But, I think I am up for it. I'll try my best, and if I stumble, well, I'll try again!

Praying for a blessed Lent for all of you faithful readers :)

Tuesday, February 14, 2006

Tunnel Months

I was stressing over whether and how to add a new therapeutic technique to our life to help our older son with social and communication deficits. This is a very interesting approach which is enormously time-consuming at the front end, but eventually would be incorporated "seamlessly" into our "lifestyle". It did seem promising from the research I'd studied. It would involve a lot of parent meetings, parent and kid meetings, videotaping and two visits a month to the "consultant", an hour away each way in local, metro-area traffic.

However I have a full plate right now. The challenge of steering our son through sixth grade is far more time consuming than I thought it would be. Keeping the younger guy happy is also a consideration. My husband and I have very little time for each other and that is worrisome to both of us.

I was talking to a wise older woman about this. She told me not to make any important life decisions during these "tunnel months"--January, February and March. When she was in the convent, those facing big decisions such as whether to leave, or to stay and take final vows were always told, "Wait til April". In the dark, cold winter no one has the energy to make such important decisions. One must try to maintain the balance one already has.

I see the sense of this. Right now we are getting through the days. Meals are cooked and served; clothes are washed and put away; bills get paid, homework gets done, and most days end without tears or fighting.

But it takes an enormous amount of energy from me. I think I will wait, hunker down in my tunnel, and wait til after Easter to change our program. When the days are longer, sunnier and warmer, I too will feel stronger. Then with God's help I will be able to discern the right path for our family.

Whew. I love it when the decision is made!

UPDATE: I have just been asked to start a chapter of a parent support group in my town, by the woman who runs the group in a neighboring state. This group was so helpful to me when I first started out. I know it would be a blessing to families around here, too. I was trying to decide whether I should tell her Yes or No...then I remembered, hey, we are still in the tunnel months. I guess I will tell her that I would like to do it but can't tell her definitely until April. It just seems as if I am meant to do this...but perhaps the answer is not Yes or No but Not Yet. Just musing here. Has anyone else ever prayed for guidance and been told "not yet"?

Monday, February 06, 2006

Quick prayer request

Our puppy ingested something she shouldn't have, (a prescription NSAID) with a little help from K3. She's at the vet hospital now, but if her kidneys have failed, then she's in real trouble.

Could you throw up a quick one for our little furry friend, so new to our family (since the fall) but so beloved, esp. to all the kids? She's only 4 pounds, and about 5 months old, sweet as can be.

Oh, I hope she's OK.....

UPDATE: No kidney damage, just some real uncomfortable GI distress. Sigh. A nice big bill, a bland diet, and Milk of Mag. for the dog for 3 days. Whew! Between K3's putting a wooden train down his toilet (and a $150 plumber bill to pull the toilet and retrieve it) and now this vet bill, well... he's an expensive boy!

Wednesday, February 01, 2006

Looking for the Rainbows...

So, I've been a little blue lately. Who doesn't get down from time to time? So I decided to make a list of the rainbows in the midst of the rain, to cheer myself up and turn the glum into gleam!

1. K3 throwing his arms around me and the DH, saying "I sure WUB you guys!"

2. Every morning when I let the dog out, I go out on the porch in the dawn's fresh air, and sit for a minute with my coffee, huddled in my robe on the deck, and offer my day to the Lord. The song "When Morning Fills the Skies" is often in my mind!

3. K2's dimples when she laughs that funny made up laugh of hers. We keep saying we're going to tape it and send it in to America's Funniest Home Videos, but never get to it.

4. K1 shyly telling me that she prayed for K2 and her upcoming First Holy Communion at a prayer service she was at, at our parish.

5. All 3 huddled in the big tub, up to their ears in bubble bath (one garden tub, two good squirts of body wash, turn on the jets), with a handful of suds on each little chin, so they look like little Santas, grinning from ear to ear.

6. The joys of sunsets... and the even greater joy of being able to call my folks, and holler "Sunset Alert" when they answer the phone, they holler back "OK", we all hang up and we both know we're looking at the same sunset. They call me, too :)

7. Our family abbreviation of 1-4-3, which stands for I LOVE YOU.... and the accompanying hand gesture of one finger up, then all four fingers up, then pulling down the index finger with the thumb to make only the last three fingers up, as a way of flashing the message across a room, or wherever you are unable to say it. Part two of this is when the kids have learned it, and struggle with making their fingers cooperate, and the smiles they have when they've mastered it. Part three is being on the unsolicited end of this hand signal from the kids. Part four is the little tid-bit of knowing that each of us, unbeknownst to the other, had that inscribed inside each other's wedding rings, along with the date. We discovered this at the wedding. We also gave each other the EXACT same Hallmark card on our wedding anniversary. Yes, the same peach envelope, the same card, everything. Great minds...

So, what about you? What are your Rainbows?!